Safety Plan for Victims of Domestic Violence
1. Understand
that you do not have the power to control your partner’s violence. But you do have
a choice over how you respond to him/her and how best to get you and your children to safety.
2. During
an argument try to move to a space that has the lowest risk…ex. A room with a door to escape to outside. Try to avoid
arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen or rooms with weapons.
3. Be aware of escape routes
in your home. What doors, windows, elevators or fire escapes are available?
4. Keep car keys
accessible and have a friend that lives near-by keep a set.
5. Tell a neighbor about
the violence and ask them to call the police if they hear or see anything suspicious.
6. Teach your
children and friends a special code word so they can call for help.
7. Be sure your children
know how to use the telephone to contact the police or fire department.
8. Plan where
you could go if you have to leave your home. Find out where there is a Domestic Violence Shelter or identify a friend or family
member that could provide temporary shelter.
9. Use your judgment. You may need to give the abuser what they are demanding if the situation is very
dangerous and you can’t leave immediately. Wait until things have calmed down to get you and your children out of the
home.
10. Keep some money, passports or other identification for you and your children in a safe place. Keep copies of these
documents with a friend or other family member.
11. If you are planning on leaving, consider opening your own savings account ot increase your independence.
12. Know
the number of the Domestic Violence Hotline. Program it into your cell phone.
13. If your violent partner has moved out,
consider changing your locks, installing a security system, installing outside safety lights that light up if someone is close
to your home.
14. Have rope ladders available to escape from 2nd floor windows.
15. Teach your children who they can contact
if your partner becomes violent and you are not available.
16.
Get a protective order from the Court.
17. Inform your boss or co-workers
of the situation.
18. Screen calls to avoid verbal abuse and avoid letting your partner know where you are.
19. Avoid consuming alcohol
when you are around your batterer. You will not be able to think as clearly when under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Decide when and where it is safe for you to consume alcohol.
20. Consider seeking help from a psychologist or other
mental health professional to maintain your safety, physical and emotional health.
21. It may not be necessary for you to
leave right away or in the future. But it is your responsibility to provide for the safety of your children.
22. Attend
a group for victims of Domestic Violence
Here is a list of items to take when you leave: Or have copies available in
a safe place. Remember, however, sometimes it is necessary to just leave with nothing but you
and the children or very basic essentials. I have highlighted the basic essentials in red.
