Red Flags of Abusers 

• Jealousy
• Controlling behavior
• Quick involvement with very intense courtship
• Unrealistic expectations
• Isolation from family and friends
• Blames others for all his/her problems
• Blames others for his/her feelings
• Hypersensitivity
• Cruelty to animal or children
• "Playful" use of force during sex that makes the partner feel uncomfortable or having sex with sleeping partner
• Verbal abuse
• Rigid sex roles
• Jeckyl and Hyde personality
• Past history of battering
• Threats of violence
• Breaking, striking objects and/or throwing things
• Any force/intimidation during an argument ex: "You will do as I say" or "You will listen to me"...